CO-DEPENDENCY - A GAME OF POWER AND CONTROL

- CODEPENDECY DEFINED -

By Synthia Esther

Your life is consumed with meeting the needs of those who are close to you. You enable, ignor or refuse to let go of an abusive, addict prone partner.

You often feel you are the glue that holds the family or relationship intact. Without you there would not be a family or relationship. You suffer from dysfuctional, obsessive compulsive, maladaptive behaviors, as you seek to habitually save and rescue those you love. You live in a constant cycle of control.

You are often depressed, sad, drained and frustrated with your inability to change people, situations, and/or circumstances. You fear being alone, inturn making your partner dependent and indebted to your heroic deeds, and savior mentality.

You give to get...because without your sacrifical giving, you feel unworthy of love. Therefore any injustice you may incur from other's is always justified.

You suffer from low self-esteem. Yet you are entrenched and impervious, to your own self destructive coping mechanisms. You prefer to remain in denial, living in a dream land of tunnel vision, never admitting your chaotic symptomology is part of the problem.

* People don't deceive you...your heart does.

* "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." - Proverbs 4:23